Real self care doesn’t start with a bubble bath!!

Calling all recovering people pleasers! in this weeks episode we look at authentic self care, what it really requires and some practical things to implement.  For all you self-confessed recovering people pleaser who find themselves overburdened and trying desperately to detach from the guilt and internal struggle that hits when you find the courage to say “no” - we hear you and this week’s episode is for you. 

Sarah snd Vangeya delve into the very real reality of having to constantly rebuild the fences around boundaries set time and time again, looking at how best to ensure that you can be who you are who, whilst being joyful, enabled to thrive and flourish so that you can show up as your best self you and therefore be able give to the measure that you are able. 

We are sure there are lots more helpful hints to achieve  this but during our conversation we landed on these as a start:

1. Know yourself 
2. Taking the fear away
3. Fence building- reinforcing the boundaries  not just with others but ourselves too
4. Honest conversation 
5. Allow for forgiveness/ compassion
6. Stop the joy robbers 
7. Give to the measure you can not to the expectation 

Resources 
1. Kobe Campbell on boundaries starting with identifying your needs and the environments in which those needs can be met: on ‘In the light’ https://open.spotify.com/episode/1go2k01znDikD1RtvxdgXL?si=9YjFKWllQ0SV7f-au_UK5Q
2. Extrovert/introvert explained: Simon Sinek https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ozSjZ6iRKSA

Over the Fence is a podcast written and presented by Vangeya Mhone and Sarah Parkinson
Music: https://www.purple-planet.com
Editing and Post-Production: Chris Parkinson